Breakups are never easy! If someone has walked away from you and you’re feeling a great sense of loss, even grief, it may be a comforting thing to know that it may not necessarily be the end.
Before reading any further, you should ask yourself whether or not you genuinely would like to have your ex back, not just as “a friend” but in the same capacity and with the same dynamics that couples in intimate relationships enjoy.
You will want to honestly examine the reasons why you broke up in the first place. Was it just over a misunderstanding or a fight? Or was it due to things that were much deeper and fundamental in terms of basic compatibility and having your needs met?
Once you’ve thought it through and decided that the idea of getting your ex back would be wonderful and that you could both “make it work”, then here are some great signs that your ex is really in love with you.
1. Are They Still Interested in You as a Person?
This sign works on the assumption that you still have some casual contact with your ex, maybe through mutual friends, or a shared interest. The first great sign that your ex is still into you will be his or her attitude toward you. It’s usually very difficult to be around people who have little interest in what you’re saying. If you were with someone who says he or she doesn’t care what you think, you’d probably feel the same way.
So if your ex-partner constantly seems to be positive and upbeat in your presence, it’s a good sign. They don’t seem like they want to hurt your feelings and will usually show interest in what you’re saying. You should also start noticing whether your ex makes sure to tell you that they like you or are interested in you.
This can be quite confusing because people always seem to think that they should just let go of someone because they feel they have lost them. People often hold on to the love that they once had for someone long after they have lost them. So if your ex tells you they care for you, it could be because they miss you. But if they tell you this often, it’s also a sign that they do care. They are simply not interested in being around a person who they don’t genuinely care for.
If they aren’t telling you that, it may be a sign that they are just not interested in you as a person.
2. They Still Look at You in an Awkward Way
Sometimes, you can just feel it! You know that your ex is still looking at you the same way they did when you were together. You know their view of you hasn’t changed. Their eyes have that little twinkle in them when they see you. If you can’t hold their gaze without it feeling awkward, then it could be possible that they still have feelings for you. Another clue is if they still smile at every dorky thing you do like it’s the first time – then they are definitely not over you! If you were the one who walked away and their eyes reveal anger and hurt, it’s more than likely a sign that they’re not over you – but you’ll need to tread carefully here if you want them back.
If someone is over you, on the other hand, they will look at you in the same way that they do everyone else. You will see the indifference in their eyes.
3. Their Interest in You is Not Just Superficial
An important thing to note is that the signs that your ex does care about you are not always physical signs. Your ex is going to be concerned with everything in your life. This includes everything from how you look, what you smell like, what clothes you wear, and the way you carry yourself. They will more than likely be talking to their friends about you, or possibly posting things like philosophical quotes on social media about relationships.
If your ex suddenly wants to be friends with one or more of your friends, this is a classic sign that they’re still into you. Your friends represent the “connection” that they still feel with you. They may even ask them about you but without letting on too much.
4. They Make an Effort For Their Appearance
If your ex seems to be a bit self-conscious about his or her looks, this could be a sign that they are interested in you. If they are always trying to look better, this means they are more confident about the way they look and that they see you as an important part of their life. They will also try to make themselves look their best. So they may dress in ways that fit in with your lifestyle. This will make them more attractive to you, but it will also make them seem less needy.
5. They Left Their Things With You, Or Won’t Let You Get Your Things
Are you still holding on to that pair of jeans that your ex left at your house months ago? Abandoning insignificant items like that might point to laziness more than anything. However, it takes on a different meaning when the items have sentimental value.
If they still haven’t picked up their guitar, jewelry, or valuable electronics, that’s one of the many signs your ex is not over you. They’re waiting for you to call and ask them to come by to get those items. Then, they’re hoping that conversation will open the door to more and you can spend time together again.
The opposite situation can occur when an ex refuses to let you pick up anything you’ve left at their place. Or, they make it incredibly difficult to do so. You keep texting and you can even see a read receipt, but there’s no reply.
You need to get back that book you loaned them, or your favorite sweater, but you can’t reach them to do so. This is another sign that your ex is still holding on to any piece of your relationship they can salvage.
6. They Feel Hurt When You are Cold Toward Them
This is not something that you can observe if and when you are conversing via text messages but you may be able to sense the tone that comes through in their messages, that they are upset. After all, from all your past experiences with this person, you should be able to tell when they are feeling this way. So be on the alert for their reactions to those times when you show indifference, or don’t respond to them for some time. If you can tell that this upsets them then it should be obvious to you that it is because they still want to be a part of your life.
7. They Try to Get Touchy-Feely With You
We’re not talking here about physical contact in a sexual or uncomfortable way. Your ex may offer to hug you and hold your hand a little longer if you decide to shake hands. They might kiss you on the cheek as a greeting, or lightly place an arm around you if the ambiance of the place is right. There is some risk in them doing this, but it shows that they are still interested in you and not afraid to show it.
When They’re Not Interested Anymore
An important sign that your ex is not interested in you is if you start to notice each other less. If your ex seems to have been taking you for granted, it may be because they are taking a break from the relationship. After a while, they won’t see you as much. So if your ex suddenly starts to disappear out of sight, it could be because they are having a hard time making up their mind about you. This may mean they are ready for a change in their life.