I’m sure you want your date to have fun and you want to have fun, too! You want to ensure that the conversation is interesting and stimulating to both of you. After all, dates should be a relaxed and fun way to get to know someone.

Body language always speaks first in any conversation. When you are confident your body relaxes, becomes more open, you lean in, you smile, and you become more animated. When you are tense or not at ease with yourself, you will be sitting back, crossing your legs, maybe your arms, your mouth will barely break a smile, and your eyes will be searching elsewhere in the room. So before the conversation even starts, remember to convey confidence with your body language.

Your verbal dating conversation skills will largely be judged on how able you are to create a conversation that your partner enjoys. Ultimately, that leads to you getting more dates. If you’re thinking this is obvious, yes it is! The question is HOW to create an interesting conversation.

Your dating conversation will be made up of you both asking and answering questions. If you ask the right questions, your partner is going to have fun. If you ask the wrong questions, you probably won’t see them again. If you are evasive or less than honest when answering questions, they will probably ditch you even faster.

Questions are powerful.

Here are some conversation starter question ideas for your first date:

1. What do you love to do in your spare time?
2. What do you particularly enjoy about that?
3. What do you do for a living?
4. If you could go on a fantasy holiday, anywhere in the world, where would it be and what would you do?
5. Tell me about your family – do you have children, siblings, pets?
6. Do you enjoy watching TV, Netflix, Youtube? What sort of programs do you like?
7. Who are the special people in your life?
8. If you could choose a superpower, which one would it be? (this tells you about a person’s values).
9. What’s the worst date that you’ve been on?
10. If you could take me anywhere, where would we go?
11. Do you like romance? What feels romantic to you?
12. Would you ever jump out of a plane?
13. Have you traveled much? Where to? Tell me about it.
14. Do you have any celebrity crushes? (If yes, then who?)
15. Are there any skills that you’ve always wanted to learn?
16. Which of the 5 love languages do you most relate to?
17. What are you good at?
18. What makes you happy?
19. How much alone time do you feel you need?
20. If money was not an issue, what you would you do with your life?
21. What’s your greatest passion?
22. Where did you spend your childhood?
23. What’s the most daring thing that you’ve ever done?
24. Tell me about your parents. Are you close to them?
25. (If the person is older) Tell me about your kids.

By asking these questions you will gain greater insight into your date while at the same time, having the opportunity to observe how they think and express themselves, their mannerisms, their values, and other ‘little things’ that will help you to decide whether you can see yourself with them, or not.

When it comes to dating (or even seducing) a woman, confidence is vital. Women often equate “self confidence” with the ability to be successful. While many men believe that women look for successful men because they’re likely to make more money, that’s simply not true.

While it’s a given, women actually look for successful men because they’re more likely to be satisfied. So you may be wondering what a man being satisfied has to do with anything. Let me explain. You see, women know that men who are satisfied with themselves are less likely to go out looking for someone to satisfy them and are more stable.

And in a relationship that means a man will be less likely to cheat, or change jobs frequently or get himself into any number of other compromising situations. Remember that most women are looking for a man who will be their partner as well as their lover.

Not only do they want a partner when it comes to things like companionship, decision-making, and finances, but in the bedroom, as well. In order to effectively seduce a woman, you must make her feel as though you’re both equals.

When it comes to confidence, it seems there are two kinds of people – those who have it and others who simply don’t. Although on the surface this may be true, everyone has the potential to be “self-confident”, or motivated if you would like to call it.

How to Cultivate Self Confidence

Take heart in knowing that you’re a good person, smart, funny, good at your job, loving, considerate, or whatever else you find to be positive character traits that you know you have.

Be comforted to know that NOT all women are looking for a CEO or brain surgeon. They just want a man who’s confident with who he is, what he knows, and what he has to offer to a relationship with them!

When you meet someone for a date, rule number one is to relax. Try to shift your mindset away from “will she like me?” to “will I like her?” Remember that you don’t need to get someone to like you back. The mutual attraction will either be there, or it won’t be. Be on the lookout for whether or not she is a similar type of person to you, whether you have enough interests in common, whether you think alike, whether you feel completely comfortable with her personality, and mannerisms. Listen to your intuition! If you do, then it may save you a lot of drama later on.

Despite what is promoted as ‘politically correct’ these days, the fact remains that women still prefer to be chosen by a man, more than being the one who does the choosing. Passivity is built into them. So be the kind of person who dares to defy all the gender stereotypes. Think of yourself as the one who will be choosing them – and if you meet a woman who thinks that she “knows what she wants” then just say to yourself “she’s not for me”. You’ll probably dodge a bullet anyway.

Remember that you don’t have to be perfect – just perfect for someone. She doesn’t have to be perfect either. So it won’t be a question of whether you have any faults or weaknesses. We all have them. Our flaws can even make us interesting, even fascinating, to someone else. So when dating women, stop looking for perfection and don’t imagine that you need to be perfect either.

Don’t imagine that you need to play any games, to get the right kind of woman for you. Things like “playing hard to get” or pretending that you’re someone you’re not, will only set the pattern for future game-playing dynamics. Just be genuine and look for someone who is as close as possible to a “female version of yourself”.

Listen to, and accept, what the woman is saying to you, without taking it personally. In our fast-moving world, many people are in different places in life, at any given moment. Some are just not in a place where they can entertain the idea of a serious relationship. It’s not about you – it’s about them. If someone is not ready to commit, just accept it and move on. Think of it as “just a numbers game”. Don’t imagine for a second that it means that you’re not good enough.

Learn how to “get the hint”. If someone doesn’t call you back or takes a long time (like days, not hours) to respond to your text messages, then they’re probably not into you. Don’t try to invent excuses for them. Respect yourself enough to say “well if she can’t be bothered making an effort for me, then I couldn’t be bothered either” and move on. Be brave and just walk away.

Finally, a word on the most effective way to meet the right kind of woman for you. Don’t place too much confidence in the online dating world. Try to find ways to go out and meet new people in the real world. Think about what interests you – whether that means things from “nerdville” all the way to bogan blokey stuff. Find groups of people, or go to places where things that interest you are going on. You’d be amazed how many great relationships spring from meeting people in a natural setting and without any expectations, where they simply like the same things that you do.

Where to go on a first date is an age-old question. Cavemen had it made. They firmly believed in kidnapping and taking their date to a filthy cave out in the middle of nowhere. Those were what was known as the good old days. Nowadays first date destinations and plans are a little trickier.

First, let’s cover where NOT to go on a first date.

The old standby of dinner and a movie is a really poor choice for a first date. How will you get to know the lady if you are sitting in a darkened theater with a movie being shown? If you choose the movie, there is probably going to be a lot of frantic car chases and a lot of blood involved. Neither is conducive to creating a memorable evening.

Also, don’t take your date to your parent’s house! She will know right away that you are a mama’s boy and you will never see her again.

Don’t take your date to a sleazy bar with a motel out the back. You will scare the poor woman to death. She will jump out of the car and hitchhike back to town believing that she would be safer with a burly truck driver than with you.

Some Suggested Places to Go on Your First Date

Begin with a simple lunch or coffee date. You want to keep the date casual so suggesting meeting up for lunch or coffee can be a good start. This way, if the date didn’t go so well, you can end the date there but if you enjoy each other’s company, you have the rest of the day to spend getting to know each other better.

A coffee date provides plenty of face-to-face time in a relaxed and neutral environment which, believe it or not, is known for inducing warm interpersonal feelings. Pick a place with some atmosphere and where it is not too noisy. You don’t want to be shouting at each other in order to be heard.

If it is the season for it, an amusement park or a theme park is a good first date idea. It doesn’t matter how old you are, we can all be big kids at heart. There is so much you can do at amusement parks and theme parks that most likely you will forget about the dating pressure and just have fun.

Most well-populated areas have an array of museums covering many different subjects. Visiting one that is dedicated to something that you have in common with the woman is another good first date idea.

Another idea is to try some mini-golf. Playing putt-putt has an almost cliché, overly wholesome feel to it, but that can actually work in your favor — it shows you don’t take things too seriously, which is an attractive trait. You’ll have plenty of laughs over the course of 18 holes, and afterward, you can move on and treat her to — what else? — a couple of ice cream cones.

Take her on a picnic. Picnics have a lot going for them when it comes to building attraction. First, you demonstrate your skill and ingenuity in assembling the food you’ll bring, and if you choose the right spot with say, a splendid view of the sunset, your brownie points will be impressive. Anywhere in nature is bound to arouse positive and potentially romantic feelings. If you have some Botanical Gardens nearby, they’re a great place for a first date. But be careful not to go anywhere too secluded though. You don’t want the lady to worry about your intentions.

Final rules for where to go on a first date:

1. Make it affordable. You don’t want to signal a high level of financial commitment from the start.
2. Somewhere where you can easily communicate without too many distractions.
3. Plenty of face-to-face time where you can make eye contact. Don’t sit side by side.
4. Somewhere novel and unusual is always a big turn on.
5. A place where there are things going on around you to comment on, in case the conversation takes a turn toward awkward silence.

Meeting women that you would actually want to date and, maybe eventually, bring home to meet mom and dad, or just bring home, isn’t as hard as it sounds. There is, of course, the singles scene out in the bars and clubs all over town but I don’t recommend that one. It’s not that just bad girls go to bars; it’s that it is hard to tell the good ones from the bad ones.

You meet women at work, too, but, there again, I don’t recommend dating them. The problem with that is that, if things don’t work out, you will still have to work together and the situation could be awkward, to say the least.

Your friends know women that you haven’t met – sisters, cousins, etc. Ask them to introduce you to them. But, my friend, if I were you, I’d avoid blind dates. Those things hardly ever work out and you can spend a lot of money on a very uncomfortable evening.

The best places to meet women that you might actually want to date are at clubs and organizations that you belong to. You will already have something in common with them and will have had the opportunity to see them interact with other people and that tells you a lot about a person. If you aren’t already involved with any clubs or organizations then for goodness sake, join some.

Find ones that are all about something you are interested in. There are clubs and organizations that cover just about anything you can think of from astronomy to zoology and single women are involved in all of them.

If you’re a religious person, churches are an excellent place to meet women. If there aren’t any single women in the church that you go to now, visit other churches until you find one where there are single women. The church itself will provide you with an opportunity to get to know the woman before you ask her for a date. You will be a lot more comfortable and so will she.

Get involved in civic organizations. Women love men who are civic-minded. They admire men who are willing to “give back”. And what about political campaigns? You will meet a lot of young women who are passionate about politics.

Other places that you can meet quality single women include dog parks (if you like dogs, that is), sporting events, farmers markets (for women who have similar taste in food to you), cafes that you regularly attend, and where others do too, walking or jogging groups, meetup groups of all interests, and dancing clubs.

If all else fails, join a good online dating service. You will meet a lot of eligible women. You can read their profiles and see pictures of them. After you get to know one well enough to ask her for a face-to-face meeting, be sure that you plan the meeting during daylight hours and in a public place.

It can feel tough at times. Sometimes you reach a place where you feel like you’re just one of those people who has bad luck with women and that’s why “Ms Perfect” hasn’t appeared in your life yet? Or perhaps you’ve come to the conclusion that she only exists in the movies and that the real world doesn’t hold any hope for you? You may be feeling a little disillusioned and have decided at some level, that that “perfect someone” just doesn’t exist, or that if she does, she won’t be looking for you.

The truth of the matter is that the reason Ms. Perfect hasn’t appeared has nothing to do with your luck, good or bad, but everything to do with you and the fact that you are busy looking for a person that doesn’t exist! You can’t date with your eyes closed and some impossible dream in your head. You’ll get so caught up in this whole exercise of dating that you forget to look for the qualities you seek! You haven’t met the person of your dreams because you aren’t looking for the things that will make them close enough to perfect for you.

You are so confident that every woman you have met could not give you what you wanted. But what was it that you wanted in the first place? Once you are sure of what you want, you will know exactly what to look for in your woman. What are the qualities that you feel are necessary in a person? What are the attributes you are willing to make a compromise on? Have you thought about all these?

Remember, that nobody on this earth is perfect. Everybody has faults – some are bigger faults than other faults. Some are faults you can overlook and some are faults that you can’t overlook on your best day and if she was the most beautiful, most sexy woman on the planet.

When you meet a woman, remember, however hard you try to impress others, you cannot control their thought processes. Instead, it’s far better to concentrate on your needs and desires, and how much of what is important to you would be fulfilled if you dated this woman.